The College Woes


According to the College Board, the average cost of tuition and fees for the 2013-2014 school year was $30,094 at private colleges, $8,893 for state residents at public colleges, and $22,203 for out-of-state residents attending public universities.

And if you compare that to the fact that apparently….

Sixty percent of U.S. college graduates cannot find a full-time job in their chosen profession, according to job placement firm Adecco.

Then I shouldn’t be too, too upset about my daughter not getting into the college that she wanted, right?  WRONG!  I was still upset, which annoys me because I thought I prepared myself pretty good to read those “Regrettably….we will not be offering you admission…” letters.  My whole spiel about how “college isn’t for everyone” seemed to go right out the door as those letters started coming in the mail.  Man, what a rip!   You would seriously think it was ME that was trying to get into college.

So after crying about the most recent letter that was received – that would be me crying, not her, at least not in front of me and I didn’t cry in front of her – I had to really think about why this upset me so much.  Yes, I was upset for her, but the bottom line is, I never went through this whole process before.  I didn’t go to college right out of high school, so I never experienced this whole you’re accepted/rejected stuff.  I don’t remember how my mom handled it with my brother and sisters, either.  I guess it’s the “mom” in me that wants to protect my child from rejection when, in fact, she needs this.

Fast forward to the present day and we are at the point where it’s been accepted that she’ll start at the community college and transfer after 2 years, which makes economical sense, anyway.  I’m not dogging community college, at all.  My child is just in need of getting out and experiencing independence and being responsible for herself and all that stuff that comes along with living on a campus.  I guess I could kick her out so she could get a place of her own and go to school and work like a lot of people successfully do, but that hardly seems like the right thing to do.  She just started her FIRST job for pete’s sake!  Ugh!  I’m usually all for “tough love”, but not like this.  If she were a horrible child, I would think differently, but she isn’t.

Ssssooo….yeah…..this is where we are….I’ll still be here to help her get a running start, but I’ll have to let go…Graduation is coming, the 18th birthday is coming, summer is coming…..I’M NOT READY FOR ALL THIS!!


(I don’t recall the website I found this doozie from, but I like it and I can’t take credit for having made it up.)




  1. Don’t worry, it’s not the end of the world, you are just going through the normal emotional roller coaster that comes with planning a future. Just remember, there is always another way, we just have to think outside the box a little.

    If I ever have kids, they will have the following options:

    1. Pay your own way through college.
    2. Given 2, you should probably save yourself a lot of money, and do community college the first two years; unless you have scholarships, in which case, more power to you.
    3. If you don’t want to do 1 or 2, there is always:

    4. Get out and get a job and find a way to support yourself, I hear…
    5. The military hires.

    All of these are all acceptable to me.

    1. I like your thinkin. 😉
      The plan has always been for her to pay her own way through college. Although I started a college 529 account for her since she was little, the amount of money in there is only intended to pay for books and room/board, not for the whole shebang. That’s what my siblings and I did, and I don’t plan to change that.

  2. I totally feel u on this! The process is so foreign to me too as I didn’t do things “the right way”. All I want is for my baby to experience the college life, I was never able to. She has a good head on her shoulders and works so hard to maintain good grades, I’m so proud of her. Even though we all know the competition is REAL we can never be prepared for the rejection….. I’m not looking fwd to them AT ALL! But u know the best thing is Dom wants to go to college and whether it starts off at NOVA or not she will transfer and graduate from that college that originally motivated her. 🙂
    All will be ok.

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